Learning to love you…for you.

I thought it would be a good idea to kick off this blog with a positive, self-love post. Learning to love yourself for you, and I mean for you, not your makeup, clothes, and materials, is one of the most difficult things to accomplish, and I want to donate my two cents.

I bet we all have those days where we get all dressed up in our most expensive outfits, take hours on our hair, and scrub our shoes for so long they look better than before we bought them. These are one of the few days we actually look at ourselves and don’t want to crack the mirror into a billion pieces, right? I know when I have those days I’ll actually fall asleep in my outfit and makeup because I know I won’t feel this good about myself for a long while.

Anxiety; this word is more painful after you’ve met it face to face. I’ve decided my personal experiences, the good and bad, are worth sharing in hopes that maybe they’ll help someone else. I struggle with my own “demons” as many are referring to our struggles nowadays. Many days, after I get ready for school, I look in the mirror for a good while and play this wrongfully deceptive game where I find everything that’s wrong with me, my outfit, my hair, and my features. And then I sit down after I feel I’ve had enough criticism and question my self-worth. This ladies and gentlemen is that morning routine a lot of YouTubers won’t show you.

I have no remedy to heal this disgusting sickness that transfers itself from innocent mind to tortured soul. I only have the hope that one day we will all find our own cures. You see, if I want to quit this I have to change. I didn’t like the length of my hair, so I cut it. I didn’t like how awkwardly all my clothes fit me, so I continue to wear sweats and yoga pants until I can buy a whole new wardrobe. I didn’t like the way my makeup was coming out, so I spend a lot of my free time watching tutorials on YouTube. I despise the continuous spread of acne on my face, so I spend a fair amount of time on skin care. My remedy for this sickness is to change what I feel uncomfortable with.

We have all unique struggles, but the amazing thing about it, is that we all also have very similar ones: acne, having “cool” and comfortable clothes, body image issues,etc. Because we share some of these insecurities, we’re able to talk to one another and find ways to cope with, if not solve, the demons we can’t seem to drown.

I just want to end this post by saying that if we don’t know someone personally, we all know some situations where insecurities and being bullied for those insecurities has caused others to take their lives, as they seen this was the only, or the easiest solution to their problems. It should never, ever, ever, get that far. If you or someone you know is nearing this point in their lives, contact a suicide hotline, talk to understanding and trustworthy people in your life, or if you just need someone to give some measly advice, feel free to contact me! I know loving yourself sounds simple, but actually loving yourself is one of the hardest things I’ve ever attempted. I know it’s not easy, so I wouldn’t let you go through it alone.

Go to the contact page on my blog to make requests, comments, complaints, or to ask any questions you might have. All this can also be done in the comments. Please share this post and any others you find interesting or helpful. This topic is an important one, and you’ll see more about it soon. I will compile a list of ways to cope with common insecurities, or I will compile whatever is requested of you! Thank you for reading.

-sincerely,              blackcoffeefactory

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3 Comments Add yours

  1. Anonymous says:

    So proud of you, Niah. Keep the blogs coming. I really enjoy reading them.

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